<blockquote id="quote"><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica" id="quote">quote:<hr height="1" noshade id="quote">Originally posted by Fastforward
As for Randy, did you get this from a reality show ?: "That aside - a work relationship can work for or against you. On one hand, you can feed information to each other, create work alliances, assist each other in getting promotions (since you'll probably have access to different people)..."
No ... I don't really like the reality shows. I am an executive though, so the statements may have more relevance at my job level than an entry level person fresh out of school.
I'm with kloh... ya'll need to start listening to Leykis.. I personally frown heavily on getting mixed up with chicks at work. If it ends, it *WILL* be awkward. And with all the talk of sexual harrassment and all...
Now, I'm going to say the following, and it'll get all the women-folk in an uproar, so keep in mind.. I'm not saying this about any of you, just playing devil's advocate. *IF* you have relations of any kind w/ somebody in your workplace, you don't know what'll happen. If the girl is crazy, or if you decide it just wasn't good and don't want to hit it again, women can be spiteful. Hell hath no fury..
If you get reported for any type of misconduct, it could cost you your job, or if not.. potential movement upward in the food chain. It isn't something you want hanging over you. There's plenty of places to meet women.. work is a place for work, and should be kept as such. Like Dizz said, don't dip in the company ink.
Hmmmm...
Thanks for the input, everyone. I thought about the situation a bit and I think I'm going to play it low-key for a few days and just test the waters and keep my options open with these few women at work...The last thing I want to do is make anyone feel uncomfortable in the workplace, although I don't get the impression that this would be the case. If something seems to be going right, at least I'll have the option to pursue it, but I will just have to tread lightly at first. None of these women work in my department and although their job status is definitely well below mine, they are not my subordinates due to departmental organization reasons.
The girl/woman that I am initially most interested in is the one that seems to be showing the most interest towards me so far. I noticed her walk by my office a bunch of times in a short time span and glance in most of the times. A little later..she walked by and sorta hesitantly walked by my office. I heard her stop and walk back to my doorway, where she dropped a corny joke/line in the doorway with a beaming smile, then came in and introduced herself and started a jovial conversation. She came back about 20 minutes later and started talking again briefly, but I had to cut it short in order to go to a meeting. From what I hear about her, she's supposed to be a really sweet girl.....she's a thin blonde with a very pretty face [boink], young looking[boink] and sporting the innocent-girl look[boink]. I'm not sure of the age..but I would have to guess that she's between 19-21 from what I've seen. [boink]
If nothing pans out with that girl...I'll just have to wear a wifebeater to work one day and bust out my Barbarian club....bonk one of the other women over the head, then drag her by the hair back to my office, Cromagnon-man style. []
On a completely unrelated topic....YANKEES SUCCCCCCK!!! [banghead]
Do what ya like...but Girls DO talk and yes we Gossip like crazy. I refuse to date anyone from my dept... Never fish from the company's pool...cuz when things don't work out... everyone gotta know about it. And once you get with one girl at work...you pretty much ruined your chances with the rest! But Good Luck!!!
I'm in charge of a division, managers report to me, supervisors, report to them, employees report to the sups. I've seen employees date each other and employees date managers/supervisors, both in the same department and across departments.
I've never fired anyone for a relationship, and I've only seen three people fired in my career - and they clearly crossed the line into harassment.
The "she/he will say bad things about you after you break up" is kind of bogus. He/she said great things about you while you were dating, saying bad things later just makes them look like a bitter chump. Most people know that so it doesn't come up often.
If it affects anyone's career, it will be the person "lowest on the totem pole". The reason is management may try to keep the couple (or ex-couple) out of each other's reporting lines - the least valuable person is the one that will be moved around.
If you're looking for a one night stand, work isn't the place to do it. Good relationships are hard to come by though, if you meet somebody you really click with - don't let where you met them stop you.
This is a place you report to every workday. If something should go wrong in a romantic affair (break up) you will more than likely have an uncomfortable environment to face each time you see each other. I don't think I could work in the same place with a spouse or girlfriend that I also see after the workday is over in my opinion.
Ingredients for an over load & burn out relationship!
If its a different department/ division, I say go for it, but if you work in same office elbow to elbow, id say nay.
Ive actually run into the same problem. There are a number of girls I have been interested in who were bankers as well, but I opted not to go after them due to the situation. Now that we work in different offices however...
My 2 cents is don't get your honey where you make your money. I totally agree that if things go wrong things will spread and next thing you know you might be known as the small penis creepy office guy. HAHAHA JK. But at the same time if you play it right you might come out as the P-I-M-P of the office and all the beotches will want to photocopy their asses to you. In my case hanky panky in the cockpit is a serious no-no so I never hit on anyone from the air force. Also, I don't like military girls anyways. The funny thing is all the cute girls in the air force are enlisted and since I'm an officer tapping that ass can get me in jail.
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