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Originally Posted by Navy ECMO
Same here. Pretty much without exception I:
-open doors, car or building entrances. Even if I have power locks, I still open it.
-pay for dinner
-allow her to order first in a restaurant
-say "please" and "thank you"
Maybe it's just my upbringing, but chivalry is just about having class. I may be making an overgeneralization, but ladies, any guy who says "Fuck that! I don't do that shit!" is a guy who has anger issues with women and probably isn't going to treat you very well. But it also pisses me off when women give you a hard time about it or get insulted because they think you are being patronizing. That's actually a kind of a litmus test as to whether or not I will get along with a girl. If she's gracious and polite in return and appreciates the gesture for what it is, we'll get along well. If she gives me the "I can do it myself, you know!" bullshit, I know it won't go much further. I still do it, because I am still going to show some class even if she doesn't. My longest relationship was 2 1/2 years and I did that stuff just as much at the end of the relationship as I did at the begining. It ABSOLUTELY keeps the relationship strong. I am a firm believer that as soon as the manners disappear from the realtionship, so will the "magic" and eventually happiness. Then you become that couple that just bickers all the time. If you love someone, they more than anyone deserve the extra effort it takes to be polite and courteous. It seems like such a small thing but to me, it's indicative of so much larger things.
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Wow Navy, such a Charmer! I for one, have only ever dated (kind of) one guy who has done this, and it was brilliant. I will always say thank you, and try to find sneaky other ways in which to show appreciation and care. I agree- it keeps a relationship fresh, because he has to keep up a level of concern, and she has to find creative ways to return the appreciation... Its like rather than each giving 50%, to make 100% of what needs doing.... this level of politeness means that both people give 100%...and are actively showing care...
Anyway, I bable. Long story short- I am never going back to a lesser expectation, thats for sure
