GZire I am shocked! That's about as racist and sexist as anything I've seen here! LOL! On the subject though, I would get input from the ex, and depending how she feels, that would probably alter my decision, also depending on how hot and willing the other chick is....lol. If your ex is really your EX then she should have no problem with you dating other women.
Edit: love the little kid BTW screaming "That's racist!" LOL! I was just kidding about the comic (thus the LOL after my original post)
Ty...you've been cheating on me
That's it... I'm gonna have to tell your mom I can't marry you now... LOL
Ok seriously now...so besides Ggirl and Beanie...all of your advice came from MEN !!!
You need to ask GIRLS for advice ... WE are the ones who will tell you how and what will happen....
First off, NO girl will get back with any EX unless she feels something for him. It doesn't have to lead to getting back together...but nonetheless she feels something. There's never the 'no strings attached".... there's always something- otherwise it isn't worth it.
Second... the friend is always "off territory"...the min you cross that line, your ex will feel betrayed..by you and her 'friend'. Personally if I was in her shoes, I would not give a damn if I 'introduced' my friend or not... I don't introduce a friend to someone I'm sleeping with for him to hook up with her...I introduce because she's a good friend of mines and I would want her to hang out with me and whoever I'm seeing. So being introduced does not make it ok to date her.
Second... if her friend is interested in you...and she's willing to give up her friendship to be with you...then it's on HER to talk to your Ex because stealing a friend's man (offical or not)is just unforgivable. You should never ask your ex if it's okay because that would make her feel that you are comparing her to her friend and that's never good if she's not the one comming out on top.
So if you care about the Ex like you say you do...then don't cross that line...she will see it as a double betrayal..not only will she lose you - her lover and her friend, but she'll also have to bear the pain that of all people to lose you to, it was to her own friend...and she'll regret ever introducing you two.
The only time, I ever see this as an OK is IF you know for a FACT - without a doubt...that this girl is the ONE and you are gonna marry her and all....otherwise it's not worth the risk.
Sorry if this was not the answer you were hoping for...but I'm just trying to speak from your ex's point of view. Dating each a friends' ex is taboo... it's even worst if you steal them... don't do it.
When I broke up with my ex..his bestfriend took my side and said that my ex lost the best thing that ever happened to him. And in his view, I was the ideal girl...had my ex not met me first, he would of dated me instead. Did he care for me? Yes...and certainly more than a friend should.... And my ex knew how his bestfriend felt about me--- so when we broke up, he told me it was ok to date his bestfriend because he knows that his friend will never hurt me.... I slapped my ex for that comment. Yes his bestfriend is one of the sweetest guy in the world- and I love him in my own way because he's always been good to me...but that's a LINE I will never cross and he can't even if he wanted to. So we just remain friends. And the nice guy thing must be true for all guys with your name Ty..cuz his is also Tai.
Being anything other than a nice girl will come around and bite those girls eventually- nice girl finish the sprint last, but I think we come out big winners in the long race
pace ourselves as the bitchy selfish ones trainwreck by 30.....
hehe
this is coming from a former train wreck (and I crossed that line well before 30
But I TOTALLY agree- there are just some lines that no matter how someone talks themselves into believing will be ok, just arent. So unless the idea of missing a chance at this girl is likely to haunt ya forfor the rest of your life, well, find a different distraction..
Yeah, not the answer I was looking for, but I knew it to be true. GP is wise beyond her years as is our resident EWO.
If you put a beautiful girl in front of me it's not unusual to hear me say something like "man, I need a girl like her". The thing that you won't often hear me say is "man, I need her".
Maybe it'll pass.
Or maybe she'll be as wise as GP and have her own talk with the ex.
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Are there really lines when it comes to love though? As adults, can't you at some point admit to yourself that things just did not, or will not, work out between you and another person and let that person go and be free to do, or date, who ever he/she wants to? Don't get me wrong, I understand GP and Irish's stance on this, but should there really be limitations on who we can date based on past relationships? Or can we possibly be mature enough as adults to be fine with someone else being more compatible with an ex, or a friend, then you were? Just some thoughts. I've learned through unfortunate life experiences that there may not be too many people out there that you're realy meant for. Don't think there's just one, but not too many. So as friends, I think we have to be a little tolerant of situations like these and just realize maybe someone else is better for the person we might have loved at some point. I know it's not easy, but should be the way it is in my mind.
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Are there really lines when it comes to love though? As adults, can't you at some point admit to yourself that things just did not, or will not, work out between you and another person and let that person go and be free to do, or date, who ever he/she wants to? Don't get me wrong, I understand GP and Irish's stance on this, but should there really be limitations on who we can date based on past relationships? Or can we possibly be mature enough as adults to be fine with someone else being more compatible with an ex, or a friend, then you were? Just some thoughts. I've learned through unfortunate life experiences that there may not be too many people out there that you're realy meant for. Don't think there's just one, but not too many. So as friends, I think we have to be a little tolerant of situations like these and just realize maybe someone else is better for the person we might have loved at some point. I know it's not easy, but should be the way it is in my mind.
I completely agree with you. Some people weren't meant to be together. It's not fair to deny yourself the chance at happiness just because your friend went out with someone before you did. I think you should talk to your ex. What if this new girl would make you happier than you have ever been before? Should you deny yourself that? I don't think so.
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