Advice on Dating ?

[G35Princess]

Ok..so I finally decided to start dating again And I thought I had it all figured out but this one got me guessing what's gonna happen next.

He's extremely handsome. 6"1', green eyes... and confident. I normally don't get intimidated by guys..but he kind made my self-confident a bit shaky. I never showed that I was nervous though- which ended up being a good thing cuz he did tell me that found my "confident" to be an attractive quality.

so far there's been 2 dates. He's really sweet and nice. And if I didnt' know better, I'd think he's a great guy. But then a friend of mines ran across his 'myspace' page and directed me to it. So here's the shocker...he has 2 pages devoted to himself!!! And pretty much come across as a Vain, Arrogant, Conceited person. A Man-whore too.

So now I'm just trying to figure which one is the real person and which one is the "front". BTW...he tried to kiss me on the 1st date, I backed off- and told him I don't kiss on the 1st date; his reply was "I don't know any girl that still moves this slow"... I just said "there's a first time for everthing." But we set a second date.

Second date was nice... he busted my lips playing air hockey! the puck flew up and hit me in the face.. on my mouth and pretty much swell up my lips! Embarassing but funny. He tried to kiss me again and again I pulled back.. 2 reason, 1- my lips hurted like hell and 2- there were kids around everywhere and I'm not a fan of PDA.

So how many more dates will it take before I can tell what his true intentions are.... and am I right to trust my instinct that he's just playing with me or am I so paranoid about getting hurt that I'm pushing away someone that could possible be genuienly interested ?

[uhohNumber2brb]

sex first, think later.

[msb3079]

i have myspace as well... just started.. you CANNOT judge people by that. just take my word for it.... it's all fake shit.

good luck, btw!

[gammawolf]

You should know by now that men are always motivated by their loins or their stomachs. It's just natural.

Trust your gut with this one. If he's that vain, and if he even resembles a man whore, then he probably is one. 2 pages dedicated to himself?? I'm not on myspace, but that sounds like a lot to me. But just because he's a player doesn't mean you can't play either. See the games thread discussed earlier.

[G35Princess]

MSB...are you telling us that you Lied on your profile? LOL.

But how much can you trust?

[J.C]

He is a man... every third word out of his mouth is a lie. :P

[jl9618]

Move at your own pace. If he ain't cool with that then you know he isn't trying to truly care about you. Trust is something that is developed over time. There isn't a set in stone equation for how much and when. I don't "trust" anyone I've only met a few times. I also wouldn't read too much into myspace either. Evaluate him from your perosonal experiences.

Where did you meet this guy?

[lovechild1970]

Call me at my 1-800 work number, girl and send me the link to his myspace.

My first thought is go out with him and have some fun! You can always tell him that you are not interested in a casual fling or you would have taken all the other man-whores up on their offers. You can always mention that you take things slowly because you don't want to put your heart into yet another waste of time. If that is "how you roll" then he doesn't need to push his frickin' luck. It is OK to set the boundary that you only want to sleep with people you could have feelings for...

Good luck!
Susan

[G35Princess]

I did look at the game thread...see normally I do have game.. I don't intend on sleeping with him- after I saw the myspace stuff - it killed all considerations

I'm just trying to figure out if he's genuine or not. IF he is then he I'll be more comfortable dating him...if he's playing me for a fool, he's about to get played right back.....

[beanie]

why does he have to have 2 pages? Do they have the same info on them? Check out his comments... that sometimes helps me to get an idea of a person.

However, you also can't take his online persona for the total truth. I know guys that come off to be total assholes online but are the nicest people. But I also know guys that are nice online and total assholes in person.

It just depends on your gut feeling about him. His reply about not kissing seems a little shady to me...

*edit: I want to see his page(s) too!

[G35Princess]

okay ... here's the link

http://search.myspace.com/index.cfm?...=david+velarde

the 1st and 2nd one are both his...they're practically identical....

[J.C]

Originally Posted by beanie

But I also know guys that are nice online and total assholes in person.

Damn have we meet?

[msb3079]

Originally Posted by G35Princess

MSB...are you telling us that you Lied on your profile? LOL.

But how much can you trust?

oo my bad. i'm an idiot... i'll confess... i didn't read all the way thru.
the kissing thing is kind of disturbing. the "moving slow" comment. that's fooked up.

i'd have to see the myspace

[lovechild1970]

I read his blog...and a couple of things on there...well...let me be honest...

It didn't bode well...

I got your pm and you are off a bit...correct number is there and my head set is on.

[beanie]

Originally Posted by lovechild1970

I read his blog...and a couple of things on there...well...let me be honest...

It didn't bode well...

+ 1

He seems like he is trying to be some love-tortured badass... also.. his profile says he's in a relationship? How old is his kid?