You already know most of this about me, Princess. Still...it is our difference in most aspects that draws me to you.
My ideal relationship is not a terribly serious relationship. It would be a great friendship of fun times and connection with a guy who can also hand me some stomach flipping excitement if I am thinking about the potential for sex between us. But I only add sex to any friendship if it won't lead to a big old enmeshed drama scene. If I wanted drama, games, and bullshit I would just find some moron and move him into my home and enjoy the ensuing life of crap and annoyance. Simple.
It doesn't take me long to know if a person is giving me what I want but I enjoy straight forward negotiation, that turns me on more than any lie or dance ever could. I don't typically bother worrying about other people's motives and so more than often I end up being the naive one who gets burned or bruised or sad about the way it must not be allowed to continue. I don't care. I can take it. I would feel worse if I had to repress myself or be someone else or lock my heart up in a closet. I don't usually have a desire to burn people back either...I just cut the loss and move on. Now if you burn my friends then I kind of want to fuck with you...just if I find a little spare time and nothing else is amusing me currently.
You only been out on 2 dates, and you're already thinking about a long term relationship with the guy? Why not just date for a while and see how it goes, rather than snooping around trying to uncover something. No offense, but if some chick I was seeing was to go through all of this after the 2nd date, I would think she's crazy.
You should just have fun and let things carry its course. I think after 2 dates is too soon to be thinking about a long term relationship.
I know trust should be earned, so give him a chance to earn it, and if you cant trust him, blow him off.
I can't see a serious relationship... so no I didn't think about a long term one after 2 dates. I'm just trying to figure out if he's a nice guy or an asshole - if he's an asshole, I don't wanna waste my time getting to know him.
2nd...I didn't snoop around. My friend was the one that found the page and forward it to me. And in all honesty...it's not snooping if it posted online for everyone to see.
2 dates is definitely too soon to tell...if anything I'm the one that's taking it slow...if I was to move at his pace... he'd expect me to sleep with him by now- it's not gonna happen but the point is I'm trying just to get back into the dating scene and this is one guy that got me guessing what kind of person he is.
He's really nice and sweet to me - but definitely not the same person on the myspace....so I'm just trying to figure out if he's playing games and from the majority of this thread...HE IS... so I might as well go along with him and play him for a fool instead It would seem like the right thing to do. If he thinks he's smooth and can play me for a fool...he just made a very bad decison.
LOL... china pattern??? I'm the kind of girl that don't care for stuff like that. Screw teh china patterns, and no way in hell I'm gonna spend $5000 for a wedding dress I"ll wear once in my life....
Chris wants a nice girl... and I'm not a "nice" girl. I just read the book "why men love bitches" and found out that I'm more the "bitch" LOL.
don't worry G...keep your faith up and one day (sometime in the next 5 yrs) you guys will see a thread about my wedding....
lunch was the 2nd date. it went nice...til we got to speedzone and played some air hockey...sob hit the damn puck so hard it hit me on the lips and busted it for a week!
And Friday night was date #3... and just like Geo had predicted "if by 3 dates, he doesn't get shit...he'll drop you" LOL.
And sure enough...he asked me to go home with him...I said "NO" and it kinda ended there No regrets from me.
But the SOB bit me! Said my skin was soft and supple and took a bite..now I'm all freaking bruised...black and blue!!!
ok susan...here's the detail you wanted... not everything is word for word but it's good enough... AND THANK YOU ALL for the "heads up" and "advice" you all gave... he was definitely a player...but he didn't play me cuz you all figured out his game first and so I was prepared which is why I had the last laugh instead
Enjoy...for your amusement:
The 3rd & Final Date
Pretty boy (aka PB) calls me up and asks what we should do on Friday (date #3). I tell him "let's go to the Abbey (a gay club- but very fun and striaght people go there all the time)" Amazingly he agrees!!! Then ask if I like to go to dinner...I said YES...pick a place.
*** why does a straight guy like him feel comfort going to a gay club? because his ex was BI and she took him there many times before.
Friday came, Pretty boy asked what time to meet up...I tell him 830 - 9 cuz that's when Jesse (my gay friend ) will pick me up.
He then ask "Thought we were having dinner?"
Me "Well unless you want Jesse with us at dinner, another time would have to do...sorry but I don't wanna drive and I don't want you to go out of your way to get me for dinner."
PB: "ok...will do. next time"
On way to club...Text msg "meet me at the club...I'll be with some friends"
I get there, towing along my 2 gay friends and my cousin Erin. We find him and he introduces me to his 2 straight firends and 2 "lesbians" friends. and I do my intro.
Night progresses...a few hugs and kisses later.... the 'magic' question finds itself into the conversation.
PB "let me kidnap you"
Me "I'd love to play along but I can't I have to go to san diego tomorrow"
PB "we were suppose to have dinner tonight, you backed out... are you sure you're not seeing anyone else.. I have no doubt if you are cuz you're hot...but where do YOU see this going?"
I amused him at this point...and said "Where do YOU want it to go?"
PB " I see you going home with me tonight and getting aggressive in bed with me."
Me "highly unlikely"
PB "why not...give me a good reason other than SD"
Being buzzed has it's pros...you can talk shit without a care...
Me (buzzed) "call me a bitch if you want, but I consider myself 'classy'..I respect myself enough to not sleep with guys on a 3rd date.I believe in taking your time to know someone before jumping into bed with them. I want to be mentally and physically attracted to somebody because if it's all about the physical part..I have plenty to choose from already."
PB (laughing) "your old fashion excuse don't work on me. I think the truth is that you're either afraid I'll tear you up or you're sleeping with someone else"
Me (annoyed but smartass) "you must think I'm naive... but let me tell you what I think of you. I don't believe for one moment that you're only dating me. And who I sleep with is on a need to know basis and you don't need to know. I did tell you the truth-whether you believe it or not. And as for you 'tearing me up' ...not possible cuz I'd break you first, however, I'm not interested anymore.
His best response: "well look at you miss fiesty little spinner! you're so sexy when you get all worked up."
At this point he stood up and held me from behind..started to kiss my shoulders and then unexpectly the bastard freaken BIT me!!!
The SOB did a fine job...cuz he left a hugh bruise on me...Black and Blue..and you can see the teeth marks too!!! But it's okay...cuz I had turned around and gave him 2 good ass bites back on his chest and from his text msg the next day I left quite a lasting impression shirtless boy won't be taking his shirt off for a while
It's the "final" date because when I left I didnt' give a hug or kiss..just a hand squeeze ( more to this but later post ) and so he texted me that it was good seeing me again but he knows that I know it's not gonna go anywhere.... my text back... we can always be friends
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See this is what happens when you meet a guy on the internet who devotes 2 pages to himself. Geez, GP sometimes I want to eat you up like a cookie but damn to take a real bite out of your shoulders is a little too much. I mean in bed, hot and heavy, a little nibble is aight in my book but a Mike Tyson bite is just psycho.
A man who needs to leave a painful mark on you, Princess...he is complete trash. He is trash just like your X, who left his mark right in the middle of your own feelings about yourself and the way that you chose to love and connect with men. And messing with you he is lucky he didn't lose a nipple. I mostly prefer to leave people with a smile on their face and some portion of my positive energy, I can always make more positive energy can't I? That is the kind of world I create for myself. You are like me in some few ways and in one particularly...you are strong enough to create the world that you want for yourself.
I am glad that you broke it off with this David character. I feel like tossing you some respect and support just in case it helps at some point to have it!
Hurtful people do not deserve such a cool gift as spending more time with you (you are truly so special) and certainly he might not have been so safe to take to bed even if he could possibly get it together long enough to please you. People who act like David might also not tell the truth about when they had their last aids' test. I haven't heard tale of a loser like this in awhile. It is totally normal in my opinion for men to want lots of sex and often with more than one person...I am cool that occasionally their real head is up their asshole and I certainly don't hold them to a standard of perfect as a requirement of my love. I am no ballbuster...but this David guy...he had nothing good to offer you in return. He never really cared if he could meet your needs or connect with you in order to get his needs met. You totally made the right call on this one by just saying what you wanted and taking the time to get to know him.
Even though I am a "loner" by nature, I enjoy many intense connections and much love for/from my friends and certainly a "special friend with benefits" is always going to be the most wonderful treat for me given that I only finding people for that place in my heart every now and again and given that I have always believed that "love" is the reason for living. I have taken a couple of hard hits square in the teeth for living by that personal truth especially when I was acting cute, being the most open-hearted, and really offering my soul to another. I understand that you have been conditioned to try to protect yourself. Those hits can cause a person to go "off center" no matter how independent or strong. But forget proving that you can compete with people and their small minded games because that is the cowardly easy way of your X who had a bad head and heart and some kind of wall-ed off psyche...it was nothing for him to be proud of.
Try this...
Think about how you have changed your behavior and open heartedness in order to protect yourself after your X. Now think about how you were already perfect to begin with and he was the fucked up head case. Don't let your X ruin your chances for happiness by your own replaying of that lame scene again and again with every man you meet so maybe you can come out on top someday. That is second rate closure. You didn't do anything wrong by loving someone. When it came down to it he was incapable of loving you because he was so unlovable to himself and that is some small pathetic stuff he didn't even have the sense to hide telling you like he did that he equated love with some sort of challenge. You want a challenge buddy, then get off your lazy ass and go climb a mountain and then when you get to the top, jump off - parachute optional.
You have awesome times ahead of you, I am sure of that! You could have any guy so make sure to pick the very best and have a great life.
whoa...should we be worried bout you Msb?
It would seem like the right thing to do. If he thinks he's smooth and can play me for a fool...he just made a very bad decison.
