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msb3079 · 11-16-2005, 08:10 PM

Hexx...
have you talked to the ex yet?
i talked to mine for the first time since March last night... it went VERY well. time does heal a lot of bad energy. i'm gonna take it slow and see what happens. but i at least want to be friends.

i know you're situation is much more serious. but figured i'd throw ou tmy encouragement and see if you have or not.

lovechild1970 · 11-16-2005, 08:19 PM

Well, msb...I see that someone has fallen down the stairs backwards...

Joke..."be friends" is good.

If Hexx hasn't called the ex...I think I might need to intercede and ah you know...give her a friendly ring as an "intermediary"?

msb3079 · 11-16-2005, 08:20 PM

thinking about someone every single day for almost 8 months and not talking to them...
to me that's being stubborn. (which i am) LOL

Hexxum001 · 11-16-2005, 10:28 PM

That's awesome msb. I am really happy for you. I know how much of a struggle it has been for you too. If you don't mind me asking, how did it happen? I mean, did you call or did she?

I really wish that I could say the same but unfortunately, my situation is not looking so good. I put out a feeler through a mutual friend and the response was not very encouraging. I don't want to have to go through the courts just to be able to see my daughter but I'm afraid that it may come to that. I'll fill everyone in when I have a better understanding as to what is gonna happen.

msb3079 · 11-16-2005, 10:36 PM

i contacted her. it was actually thru IM. she's a senior at Udel, we dated for 2 years... and got used to talking online a lot. so for now, i thought that was the best way to start. thanks for the "good luck" i would like to see if things are "fixable" bt her and i. i think they are. i understand more now than ever the mistakes i made and it kills me. but the past is the past... i will do what i can to see if it is able to be fixed. and if not, i am prepared to be friends. she was the best friend i've ever had... so i'd like at least friendship. (as would she) she hasn't had a bf since the break up (well over a yr) but she was very excited to hear from me and accepted what i told her that i needed time on my own to think about things- and thats why i havent talked to her. she even asked what i thought i learned.

but anyway... as far as you go... i wouldnt listen too much to others. i would go straight to her. make the attempt, so you do not regret it later.
sometimes people feel differently deep down then what they express to others in times of anger.

good luck.

Hexxum001 · 11-16-2005, 11:14 PM

You are right. She might still be putting up a front to our friend because she doesn't want to be perceived as giving in or showing any weakness. I just thought that after all of this time that maybe the response would have been a little bit more positive or at least amicable. I am waiting to hear from our friend on another matter but I am pretty much out of time so either way I don't really have a choice but to contact her and try to work something out. And if it can't be worked out, I am gonna have to start looking for a lawyer.

IM is definitely a good way to get the ball rolling. If I could, I would do it the same way. I'll cross my fingers for you msb. If it can at least work out for one of us, that is a good thing.

msb3079 · 11-17-2005, 08:40 AM

thanks buddy.
good luck.
when is the baby due? early Dec right?

Hexxum001 · 11-17-2005, 11:03 AM

Dec. 1st.

The countdown is definitely on.

msb3079 · 11-17-2005, 11:21 AM

WOW exactly 2 weeks. i'd call her man. like now. she may even be wondering like wtf. i'm do in 2 weeks with his baby and he still hasn't talked to me? ya know? i'd contact her somehow.

Hexxum001 · 11-17-2005, 11:32 AM

Like I said, I did put out a feeler through a mutual friend of ours so she knows that I want to communicate with her about the baby. Her response wasn't very positive. I'll just wait a few more days to see if she thinks about it a little and contacts me. If not, then I will call her and if that still doesn't work, I guess I have no choice but to take her to court.

msb3079 · 11-17-2005, 11:48 AM

yeah but many people would want to be contacted directly. some would actually be turned off by "putting a feeler out"

Hexxum001 · 11-17-2005, 11:57 AM

True. I thought about that too. Maybe she responded negatively because she wants to hear from me directly. I don't know.

Like I said, I guess I'll give it just a few more days to see if she calls me if not I don't have a choice anymore but to call her.

So when are you gonna talk to your ex again msb? Are you planning on seeing her anytime soon?

Jaylin · 11-17-2005, 12:20 PM

Only two weeks left and you still haven't talked to her yourself....you fucking stupid Hexx...pick up that goddamn phone and call her, otherwise you won't see the birth of your daughter and will regret it for the rest of your life...PICK UP THE FUCKING PHONE JACKASS!

msb3079 · 11-17-2005, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Hexxum001

So when are you gonna talk to your ex again msb? Are you planning on seeing her anytime soon?

i don't know... we'll talk casually. i wanna tkae it slow, don't wanna come on too strong. i was thinking of taking her out for dinner or something before she goes to CT for winter break. we'll see how it goes.

but yeah like Jay say -- you gotta pick up the phone NOW don't wait!

SmokeG305 · 11-17-2005, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaylin

Only two weeks left and you still haven't talked to her yourself....you fucking stupid Hexx...pick up that goddamn phone and call her, otherwise you won't see the birth of your daughter and will regret it for the rest of your life...PICK UP THE FUCKING PHONE JACKASS!

even though i dont feel as strong as jaylin does about this... i still agree that you should call her now. dont let another week pass.