So I kinda accidentally got myself in a predicament. I just recently met up with an old acquaintance from high school, who I hadn't seen for 3 years till a few weeks ago. I remember she was a cutie in high school and she still is. I found myself interested in her and she's interested in me (I think).
The problem comes when the second girl comes into play, I’ll refer to her as girl B. I’ve only recently started hanging out with and have also found her to be of some interest. I’m also thinking that she's interested in me. I’ve only come to realize this of girl B last night.
Perhaps if I were another guy I’d take full advantage of this situation, but I’m not. So I realized this morning that I’ve accidentally lead on to different girls. I don't if I should just go ahead and make my pick now and stick with it or if I should hold out till I find out if one of the girls doesn't work out. If I hold off to decide and it works out with one of them then I’ve lead on the other girl, which is obviously not really a nice thing to do.
So I’m just curious on everyone's input on this grand situation I’ve gotten myself into.
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Why don't you just have a little chat with them and see what they want, what you want. Maybe neither of them is desperate to be in a commited monogomous relationship...maybe both of them just want to get to know you a little better.
Communication can often help you to "get your needs met" without some twisted game ruining the real connection you might have with a woman.
Don't sweat it bro. As long as you don't tell either one of them that they are the only one, you are all good. You are not leading them on if you are trying to figure out who you are more compatible with. And neither one of them is your girlfriend. That's what dating is all about homie. Going out with different girls until you find the one that you want to be a little bit more serious with.
I'm not sure to what level of involvement that you've become entrenched in with each of these ladies. There's certainly nothing wrong with hanging out with 2 different girls at the same time, as long as either situation doesn't become anything commital. Personally, I feel that if you are making significant sexual advances on them.. you owe it to both of them to inform them that you aren't looking for anything serious or committal. If not, then you might be leading them on.
For all you know, these 2 girls might just be looking for a fling.... or maybe one is, and the other isn't.
But if you feel like you're leading them on, then you probably are. You could always just try to feel them both out(non-physically ) and get a better idea which, if either... of them you'd rather pursue with greater interest.
It's kinda funny thinking back to the days of early teens when you used to officially "Ask a girl out".. and then you were officialy a couple.. but now that we're older, a dating relationship just sort of grows into an exclusive relationship over time and doesn't generally involve discussions of sole commitment(except in some less common cases).
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I think you should get them together and basically have a discussion about who would give the best head. :P JK. Well, anyways, since you have options it's totally based on what you want and where you want it to go. The second thing is trying to find out what the girl wants and see if they're in sync with your need and wants. I say get to know both of them better and make a list of pros and cons, but don't write it down on a paper because I saw this happen once on 'Friends' and Ross didn't end up getting together with jennifer Anistan. Pity.
Please don't ever speak of that show "Friends" again.
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Without knowing all the details, it sounds like both relationships are very preliminary. If so (ie, you've not been dating either one for 2 months, or you're not having sex with either one on a regular basis), then hang out with both...how can you know which one you'll like better without spending some time with each? If one of them starts talking about monogamy or if you start spending a lot more time (including in bed), then you have a decision to make.
Ok, I got lots of replies pretty quickly. All good advice, even iron's "Fook dem hoes, they ain't got shit on you. :P "
I think Lard hit it right on the nose, both relationships are very preliminary. Everything is rather new still and I have yet to have any sexual encounters with either.
Funny you should mention the early teen’s partyman. I was having the same discussion with a buddy of mine the other day about the same thing.
seems for the most part everyone's in agreement to just hang in there and see where thing's end up, so that's what I’ll do. If I should get confused then I’ll sit down with them and have a talk.
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