You deserve to live a happy life.
If that means you must live in So-Cal for awhile or ever...I certainly understand that feeling. The four months I lived in EL LAY was the only winter I did not have in my entire life. Snow storms are fun MSB when you are trapped with a naked person, a roaring fire, a healthy chunk of libido, maybe a couple of Hitchcock Films...
When I am completely living my life at a pace where I can keep up emotionally and be living in my mind in the exact moment that I am actually physically in...then the signs of how I feel would be the biggest indicators. For instance when I bought my G...not a small decision to buy the first, maybe only new car of my life...this late in life...so I planned my six month regimine with a list of 25 cars and was totally living "car" for long enough to feel justified in buying a new car and that I would not buy anything that I couldn't possibly be into for 15 years if I could keep it running for 15 years. I was unsure and driving everything in town but the Lotus and the Jag off my original list and nothing really inspired me though I was sinking in the Beemer, I kept looking. Suddenly this light came out of the sky (a couple beloved guy friends who play grandma card games realized it was time to spring a new life on me by showing the ugly photo and requesting me to look in person the next morning) and everything I loved before the G...fell away...all that was left was the love of G...
It'll happen for you...maybe with So-Cal.
Save the obsessive thinking about it for when you are there pulling string bikinis off your new gf.